Confusing Vanity and Self-Efficacy Creates a Clouded Reality

Within everyone lies the seeds of self-indulgence, the capacity to overinflate importance by watering the mind with visions of supremacy. This supposed pre-eminence often loiters around those who are fond of revelling in their own attributes or status, feeling superior to those on subservient footing. Beauty has been perennially attached to value and the stress placed on attractiveness is innate and widespread. Our driving forces implore us to eat, sleep, excrete and procreate; consciously or not, we eye good-looking people as ideal candidates to spread our DNA. 

With seldom sight of integrity or intellect, digital vehicles have amplified obsession of superficiality and the methodical scramble for glib praise. Contrary to this vanity, self-efficacy is the ability to look at oneself in humble admiration, to be proud of yet modest in one’s abilities yielding confidence in traversing life’s spectrum. When vanity and self-efficacy are confused reality is misinterpreted; a strong self-efficacy will build, where as a high degree of vanity will inevitably implode.


Condoning the Delusion

For the vain, individual egoism is daily life. With stench of grandeur surrounding every opinion, the world of the vain is fashioned with assumed superiority the cornerstone. The haughty nature of the self-indulgent makes it unbearable to be in their presence for prolonged periods, unless one enjoys partaking in one-sided interlocution about another’s life proficiency .

When the mind is trained to only focus on the self one instinctively puts their life at the centre of existence, all other attainments and tribulations paling in comparison. Every achievement is a possibility in their mind and every sorrow an undeserved farce.

Whether it is looks, a family name, a talent, the vain typically have characteristics condoning their delusion. Although potentially fostering a great advantage, it shifts into a detriment when they cannot help but confer their supposed saliency. Just as the good do the right thing because they are good, the vain act superciliously because they are vain and strive to hear of their worth, even if it leaves the opposite image in those they encounter.

Anyone could benefit from being in the presence of genius, yet if their behaviour is akin to the uncouth those closest will merely remember their gauche demeanour. The vein individual focuses on receiving praise without taking into account the potential disingenuousness of its delivery, inspection into authenticity castrated by a yearning to hear what they want. When ears are only filled with what is desired life cannot be accurately assessed; the pompous illusion grows more vivid.

With the ever-rising influence of mass media, social media and technology, the devotion towards appearance continues to multiply. These elongating tentacles, particularly of social media, have convinced the public is it acceptable to spend prolonged periods looking at one’s own reflection to capture the apex of your charm. Along with Photoshop, sponsored content and tailored feeds, superficiality is commonplace in the community and “influencers” display the financial benefits of vanity.

When the mind pedestals superficiality, reality becomes artificial.


Cultivating Belief

Whilst vanity ensures perception of the world is tainted with a narcissism, self-efficacy is an essential block to a robust disposition, it creates belief in oneself and the legitimacy our endeavours. Self-efficacy is appreciation of the self without being boastful, it is a state of conviction in ability and strength engendered through acknowledging and improving weakness.

Self-efficacy is a person’s belief in their capacity to achieve; combined with the desire to succeed (motivation), an individual has the optimal attitude to commence their quest. Without conviction in one’s skill it can be difficult for people to reach their potential, conversely, when one harbours trust in themselves they are apt, with the help of trail and error, at receiving information and turning it into knowledge.

Individuals possessing strong self-efficacy don’t bend at the sight of adversity but equip themselves to audaciously confront it. With this outlook a person holds their head high approaching the circumstance and, regardless of the situation, commits to the end. Those with strong self-efficacy rejoice in success and are modest in defeat, treating unfavourable outcomes as speed bumps not stop signs. An important aspect in the psyche of these individuals is the honour given to the process. When scenarios fall in their favour they don’t indulge themselves, rather are proud to have previously suffered in order to achieve.

The cultivation of this internal sentiment can come from an array of occurrences and according to psychologist Albert Bandura there 4 main sources. When we attempt to surmount a challenge and succeed, one is engaged with a mastery experience. Through practice we are able to learn and improve our skills, therefore as we teach ourselves cognizance increases of our hidden capabilities.

Just by being near those with nourishing levels of self-efficacy one inherits some of their confidence. A prime example of these encouragers are coaches who exhibit great knowledge and passion for their sport, inspiring players to believe more of themselves and push the boundaries of their proficiency. Verbal Persuasion is used by coaches as well as parents, friends, teachers, to try extract the best out of someone through orally implanting the with belief.

Most important to one’s self-efficacy is their mental state. It becomes an arduous task to increase reservoirs of confidence when they are already filled with anxiety and apprehension. Instead of centralizing thought on the individuals themselves, self-efficacy is about the psychological proficiency of that being to attempt, their ambitiousness to bare witness to their potential.






In the epoch of overstimulation and decadence it’s become socially acceptable for individuals to flaunt their vanity without ridicule; people caught up in the digital realm habitually confuse it for tangible reality. All humans have a desire to feel appreciated and being told of one’s beauty produces a cheerful effect, however, when one incessantly seeks praise for their looks the mind fills with superficiality, surfacing conceited thoughts.

While vanity deludes, self-efficacy encourages a clearer vision of who one is and what they are capable of, confidence constructed from a trove of experiences not merely the word of others. The key ingredient to developing a healthy self-efficacy is a willingness to attempt, by doing something the seeds of an idea are implanted in the world and, with nurture, can grow alongside authentic self-conviction.











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