Belittling Someone Will Only Result in A Misconstrued Version of The Self

We all foster a desire to feel revered, to feel our life isn’t just a collection of memories and material but something worthy of acclaim. In attempting to assemble a meaningful existence a yearning for remembrance pulsates. One decides how to define their worldly worth whether it’s through the accumulation of possessions, time spent helping others, love from family, an acquired title, an individual’s attitude towards life will shape their experience of it.

Pride is found in achievement and with an urge to capsulate significance some degrade others to reprieve discontentment; if they can’t feel prominent at least they can feel superior to another. Certain individuals find validation in belittling, neglecting personal faults their attention shifts towards the perceived shortcomings of others. This type of self-validation creates a misconstrued reality where one commands dominance through disparagement, the rational mind castrated by the ‘they may not like me but they will feel me’ mentality.


Of the many anti-social behaviours witnessed in the community the most widely seen is verbal abuse. When some individuals are disgruntled by another’s actions their first response is to throw a linguistic jab, with the ability to attack from a distance the instigator intends to galvanize an emotional response for enjoyment or perceived grievance.

In the age of Internet these distant attacks have become overwhelmingly prominent; hiding behind a pseudonym and keyboard anybody can hurl insults at those held in distain. The Internet’s enormous reach means these trolls can select a variety of victims and when one isn’t biting they can switch to another, unwilling to leave the technology until they sense their supposed dominance. Not being present when insults are inflicted means there is no true cognizance of the victim’s suffering, the only trace being obscenities slang back. This is ideal for some as satisfaction stems from assumed insolence, yet, others are exhilarated by personal confrontation.

In nature animals compete in combat for control, announcing their superiority by enforcing themselves onto rivals. Examining human methods we are not too dissimilar, historically violence has been the salient method to brew conflict and gain control.

Some people find validation in displays of superlative strength, the untrained brut builds bravado every time they strike whether it’s fair or not. These people often create fallacies of their grandeur through unwarranted value on dominance displays, reality skewing to see themselves as protagonists; however, others revel in being the antagonist.

Victim to Provocateur

Since the dawn of agriculture and simultaneously economics, humans have drifted into a materialistic driven world where authority, over not only oneself but others, has polluted the mind of the ruling class and cemented societal foundations.Why do many individuals feel the impinging need to domineer their peers? The answer is not purely external.

It can be postulated that humans are not innately malevolent by examining domesticated dogs; people are predominantly influenced by their environment and experiences, yet, in rare cases, some are born with a chemical imbalance distorting their mind nefariously.

If one’s upbringing is adversely difficult solace is often uncovered in depravity, as continual onslaughts erode self-esteem a defence is found in treating those they can analogously. The power felt in belittling another fills the void created by others imposing on them, disposition shifting from victim to provocateur.

Some people without purpose are bored and lack human connection, antagonizing to evoke a reaction allows them to feel like a main character rather than a footnote. In a friendship group people can often act sordidly not because they want to but to impress or retain status. These individuals do not think independently and are therefore greatly influenced by those they consider friends.

It cannot be disregarded that some people just want to be the alpha at all costs, with this ideology confrontation is necessary and a hankering for hostility lingers, a craving to be lured into action.

“And In The End”

For those who authenticate themselves on bestial behaviour there must be a genuine intention to change, strategies will only work with an honest alteration of thought.
An auspicious tactic is to visualize how one would like to be perceived by the world; sure, you may be successful and financially heavy, but if your conceited nature projects the image of an uncouth aristocrat people will despise your presence.

Although there are various styles of management it can be suggested that workers are more efficient when rapport is held with bosses, working to please a comrade rather than a dictator. Others may argue the converse, yet, work done in fear does not produce recurrent results and whilst the workers’ spirit progressively depreciates so to the reliability of outcomes.

If an individual is a perpetual patroniser a sharp blow of truth can stun and elucidate ignorance, but for improvement on the self there must be willingness to acknowledge personal flaws and examine erroneous behaviour.

A fast track to modifying sordid conduct is to hear anecdotes of how one’s behaviour has affected others. This may not work for some and if an individual cannot see the affects of their immoral action it speaks volumes of their delusion; previous actions cannot be altered yet contemplation and individual choice determines how one will behave in the future.

In the words of the Beatles “And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make”; it is those giving an abundance of love who will be surrounded by it, those hoarding starved of it.

Everyone is fighting to brighten inner darkness and belittling someone doesn’t provide more light, it blackens our own abyss. If one continues to act dissolutely their actions will eventually be found out; they may attain material wealth but this doesn’t depict the individual’s authenticity or the honest contentment felt inside. Our collective aim as humans should be to leave this planet better than when we arrived, in pursuit of depravity we deny ourselves of the ability to achieve this universal goal.

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