Occasionally Indulge The Ego, But Avoid Making It Your Lover

The balance between confidence and arrogance teeters on intention of the ego. Through intertwinement between the conscious and unconscious the ego engenders a sense of self, developing portions of one’s personality and the respect it believes it deserves. The ego draws attention towards what it wants out of a particular predicament, as the conscious weighs the morality of action the ego seeks to reap the best benefits; questionable conduct routinely condoned for the sake of pleasure or advancement.

While the ego helps perpetuate self-efficacy it often delves into the realm of vanity, a sense of entitlement induced by a yearning to be recognized and adhered to. The ego can assist people in constructing their sense of self, yet, an unchecked ego has the ability to beguile individuals and dictate their behaviour.


The Ego’s Eye

The ego is a manifestation of the mind begotten from an individual’s innate personality, upbringing, society, social network and sense of self; it seamlessly moves throughout thoughts without one fully recognizing the interlocutor. It’s postulated the ego’s prevalence is fermented on the social constructs of society, it craves appreciation from defining attributes be it a name, skill, trait, tribe, philosophy, desiring to hear its existence through relevance in the world.

There’s a need within the ego to prove itself and habitually induces bold behaviour, instead of loitering in content, a longing to be told of its aptitude urges the body to showcase an individual’s endowments. The inebriated self often resembles the ego, in particular, under the influence of alcohol as the dispersion of liquid courage galvanizes flamboyant action.

The ego surges confidence and ushers in an eagerness to attempt, prompting individuals to extend themselves into new environments. When excessively pampered however, it occupies a greater jurisdiction of the mind often ignoring integrity. At times, it can be auspicious to be strategically selfish, but intentionally harming for personal gain can never be morally justified.

The ego fosters beliefs and we must be wary to not let it disable the appreciation of differing views; rather than snubbing anything contrary, to truly understand our personal philosophy other opinions need to be examined.

Ideologies are identifying factors the ego enjoys strapping onto as they involve a structure endorsed by others, a structure in which it can be applauded for the right response. By quelling the desire for external acclaim objectivity can help suppress the ego’s predilection for praise. One needn’t become heretic of admiration, rather conscious of it’s ability to seduce.


Self-Efficacy Vs. Vanity

No matter how brilliant an individual may be, if they are insufferable to be around people will only remember their obnoxiousness; if someone is good at something there is no need to personally express their aptitude, others will claim it for them.

The ego seesaws between the regions of self-efficacy and vanity. Self-efficacy constructs confidence and spurs personal growth, providing strength to pursue ambition and preserve through adversity. Vanity endorses independent saliency misconstruing one’s position in reality, it’s self-indulgence with the potential to isolate people from their environment.

When events are falling in favour the ego often lures individuals to believe they’re more deserving of fortune than others, enlarging hubris and indenting on their personal pride.

Once achievement is attained, however, the next contest materializes.

Life has a continuation of challenges waiting for us all, if thought is centered on how deserving we are of something we are misusing the energy required for accomplishment. Goals are essential to keep us orientating towards our ambitions, achievement is enriching although one should be conscious to embody humbleness, praise the effort but not indulge the result.

Meditation is an practical tool for subduing the ego; in temporarily dropping thought the mind can be freed from assumed authority and learn to just be, realigning with the flow of breathe and true self. Self-depreciation is also a great way to limit the ego’s influence over our disposition, by laughing at ourselves we can vividly see how we and the events in our lives are not so important that humour cannot decrease their seriousness.

When megalomaniacal tendencies arise helping others can show how power is best used to assist those in need, philanthropy is an investment both pleasuring to the ego and authentic in satisfaction.



An individual is not their ego yet the ego can become the individual; while it may usher people towards whom they will become, it must be prevented from defining who they are. When one makes love with their ego the offspring metastasize in the mind, conjuring false perceptions and inhibiting true observation of reality. It’s difficult to be aware when the ego is present but by helping others, laughing at oneself and practicing mediation, one can avoid being captured by its charisma.





Image source: Jacob Burns Film Center

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